I am looking to see if anyone else is an american dating a turkish person. I would like to get some advice on how to handle any cultural differences or expectations. Last Update : 5/28/2004 9:47:17 PM; 90711 Last Update : 14.06.2004 11:39:38; 90711
I am dating a Turkish man and it is very different, to say the least, than dating an American man. ( I am American, by the way.) He is much younger than me but very mature. He is very faithful to his religeon and I have tremendous respect for this. We get along tremendously I think because I am older and do not have the demanding attitude of some younger women. Just from my experience I would say that the cultural differences have been that he is very affectionate (not in public), wants to know where I am at all times, wants to make all the decisions, and he always wants to be reassured of our relationship. It is certainly a trade off: he shows his love every day, not just says it. He treats me like a lady every day, not disrespectful. We go out with his friends (guys only, except for me) and I have yet to meet a turkish woman in public with him. Yet I am included in everything he does. I find dating a Turkish man, refreshing yet challenging. I'm sure I am in for some surprizes along the way. Good luck with your relationship.
My friend is dating an american girl ... as an outsider I find it interesting that the relationship is working on "principles" rather than feelings and interests. But they are happy - as far as I know - since that sort of relationship can go on forever, as long as the parties are willing to. But personally, I do not see that "flame" that otherwise would be there if he had been dating a "meditrerranean girl", mind you, not necessarily "Turkish".
For most Turkish guys, the so called "cultural" differances relate to the behavior, or the attitude towards life, not ethnic base. Take for example an italian man and a turkish woman, or a greek woman and a turkish guy, or a spanish woman and a greek man (all these examples are from real life btw ); these relationships are all alike, in terms of overall experience (gush I sound too expert, or pervert, I don't know ) of love, hate, romance and stuff. Which I do not see here in the States between Turks & Americans. Don't get me wrong, I have friends married to american girls, and they are waaay to happy. Most confess that american girls are a bit "more demanding", but admit that they are "happier than they would be with a Turkish" woman.
I believe it is an issue of character, rather than culture or point of origin
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); these relationships are all alike, in terms of overall experience (gush I sound too expert, or pervert, I don't know 
If anyone needs advice on marrying a Turkish man...ask!
